I am not a medical professional. This is what I experienced during my most recent miscarriage. Please seek medical attention if you are concerned about your pregnancy. Call a doctor immediately if you are soaking through more than one pad an hour or losing large clots.
The whole experience is sad and scary, but I think the not knowing what to expect or what the hell is happening to your body makes it worse. The pain and what your body goes through is shocking and a kick in the teeth after finding out your baby died. It’s traumatic – mind, body, and soul.
Plan on that. Make space to grieve. Let people help you. Be alone if you need to be alone. Scream. Cry. Laugh. Grieve however you need to. It all sucks. There’s no need to pretend that it doesn’t. You’re in pain. Allow it.
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It has been a crazy few weeks – weeks full of family and colds and fevers and fear and realizations and stress. There is a lot going on in our little family right now. Mostly, we’re finding that the next few months are going to be pretty rough for us financially. We’re okay. We will be okay. But I need to find a job.
This is something I’ve been looking into for quite some time. Nothing has really panned out, but, truthfully, I haven’t been putting 100% into my job search because my kids and my blog are my bucket-fillers. And, of course, caring for my babies and my writing and my readers is pretty time-consuming.
Because of our financial situation and my need to find some kind of job ASAP, I’m going to have to take a little hiatus from the blog. This breaks my heart. Writing has been really good for my brain. It also makes me so happy to reach a reader and help her realize she’s not alone, even if it’s just for a moment. That being said, this is what is best for our family right now, and I will be back at it just as soon as I possibly can. I’m hoping things will fall into place and settle down a bit sometime in October. Of course, I know I have absolutely no control over that, but I’m going to pray and try really hard to make it work!
Glennon Doyle talks about how the root of the word crisis means to sift. We will be sifting through our life to find what’s truly important, to be left with the only things that really matter – the things no one or situation can take away. This is our beautiful mess, our blessing, our joy. We’ll choose joy.
And, in the meantime, know I’m thinking of you, dear readers, and will be back. I’ve put together a list of some money-saving apps we have put to good use, too. You’ll find it below 🙂 I will see you soon!
IBOTTA – Ibotta has saved us over $150 this year, and I could’ve earned way more. It’s a rebate app. You find rebates for the products you buy and then submit your receipt. This can really be an excellent deal, especially when you can combine it with the coupons and sales offered by the retailer. The money earned can be used to purchase gift cards or transferred to your PayPal account. I save up our rebates and use them when the babies need new clothes or for Christmas. The link is connected to my referral code, which means I’d receive a bonus. You get a $10 bonus with your first rebate by following my link, too!
RECEIPT HOG – I’ve just started using Receipt Hog, but it’s kind of fun! You just upload any receipt from stores or restaurants, and you earn coins that can be redeemed for gift cards or PayPal credit. Each receipt also earns you entries into various drawings and/or contests.
CHECKOUT 51 – This is a rebate app for your groceries. Once you earn $20, you can cash out and they send you a check. There’s usually a contest you can enter to win $500 by uploading any receipt over $60, too. Bonus!
EBATES – eBates offers money back on online purchases through their app. You can catch some really good deals! I believe they issue checks quarterly. They also offer bonuses.
MPERKS – If you live near a Meijer, I highly recommend using mPerks. You can get great deals on already reduced prices and earn bonuses, like money off your next shopping trip. The primary focus is groceries, but they have a good selection of general merchandise, too.
CARTWHEEL – Cartwheel is part of the Target app. You can scan the products you purchase to see if there are any additional discounts. You can also search for items prior to your shopping trip. I’ve saved quite a bit of money using this app and my Red Card (Target’s debit card that saves you 5% off everything).
OFFERUP – OfferUp is an app for selling/buying similar to Craigslist but more localized. We’ve had some luck selling and buying on OfferUp. I prefer it because I seem to get more offers here than on Craigslist. Plus, the listing doesn’t automatically expire after 7 days.
JET – Jet sells groceries and home goods, like cleaning supplies. You can find some excellent deals, and you get 15% off your first three orders when you sign up.
It’s a scary thing, the blank page, a new beginning. Rob Bell calls it the blinking line. Glennon Doyle also writes about the intimidation of a blank page. It’s something that confronts all of us.
At the end of any in-between (and maybe at the start, too), it’s scary. It’s unknown. It’s something you have to start. Maybe if you’re lucky (or perhaps unlucky), it starts for you. But even then you have to figure it out, begin, take action, develop a system, take that first step. It’s overwhelming. And it could easily cause one to run away, filled with all the fear and insecurity and self-doubt and uncertainty.
There are MANY pregnant women in my life right now. With that in mind, it seemed appropriate to put together a list of my favorite baby gear. These are things I am glad we bought, even if it was a bit of an “investment”, things that saved us over and over and were worth the purchase.
I get stuck when I’m worrying about something. I pause everything in my life (or as many things as possible – can’t pause the kids, unfortunately) until whatever I’m worried about is resolved. This is a terrible way to live. It’s unnecessary and fruitless. And a HUGE waste of time if my problem is a long-term issue.
When we started preparing for Baby Girl’s arrival, I was planning on puréeing all our own baby food. I even registered for some of the supplies. But then a friend told me about baby-led weaning (BLW). Thank goodness she did because I’m pretty sure she saved my life!
You hear and read stories about picky eaters all the time. Parents spend hours bargaining with their littles and making extra meals to accommodate tiny tastebuds. With every thing else you have to tend to as a parent, wouldn’t it be nice to take the food issue off the table? (Pardon my poor pun.) When you’re caught in between milk feedings and eating with the family, BLW offers an excellent solution.
I feel crazy. My brain is spinning in 500 different directions and somehow spaced out at the same time. I feel panicky and like I can’t breathe one minute and furious the next. I want to scream and cry and throw things.
Hello, postpartum hormones. It’s awful to see you again.
Harry Potter has been a safe haven during ALL of my in-betweens. It is a shelter in the storm, something I can count on time and time again. I’m sure that sounds a little silly, but, really and truly, I have read and re-read, watched and re-watched, and listened to and re-listened to the entire series over and over and over and over.
Yesterday I actually made it out for a MORNING run. My SECOND run of the week, in fact. I know – that probably doesn’t seem like a big deal. But things have not been going as planned with my training. Finding the time to get in my miles with two littles to take care of has been way more difficult than I was expecting, and I was expecting it to be pretty hard!
It is HARD to make Date Night happen when you’ve got kids and no money. BUT (and we all know this) it is so incredibly important to make time with your partner a priority. I love my husband, and I want to stay connected. I don’t want to lose who we are as a couple in the process of figuring out who we are as parents. So…
IDEAS FOR FREE DATE NIGHTS
I did some brainstorming with my people and came up with a list of 10 date nights that are 100% free. (Any food used could easily come from the week’s grocery trip without straining your budget.)